Step Away from the Post…or not.

So, it only took three days!  Yup, three whoooooole days for me to wonder exactly I had gotten myself into this time.  I spent a good portion of yesterday looking at all the amazing blogs that are part of the Write 31 Days challenge and with each click I felt like an outsider. This is a condition I find myself in. A lot.  Who was it that said “Comparison is the thief of joy”? OK, I am a total geek and I know the answer-just wanted to phrase it as a question. It was Teddy Roosevelt.

Gorgeous graphics, wise and well crafted writing, great topics and all around perfect looking blogs for about three hours and I was left wishing I hadn’t done signed up. What can I possibly offer to the conversation? Nothing interesting or new, that’s for sure. After a healthy dose of self loathing with a smidge of pity thrown in for good measure I was reminded why I chose-yes, chose-to do this. It was a challenge to write. Something I have wanted to pursue and have always loved.

My earliest recollection of wanting to write was when I was maybe 8 or 9.  I had seen a contest in the local paper looking for stories of unsung hero’s and why they deserved to be recognized. In my most earnest, youthful way I set out to write a story for the contest. I knew right away who I was going to write about!! I was so excited! I wrote my little heart out, sent my entry in and waited. It is SO hard to wait when you just know you are going to win!  I got my first rejection letter a few weeks later. I didn’t understand, I mean, how could I have lost? No one had ever written a song about Frederick Douglass Jr.-come on!! See, what my little old writer self didn’t know was that unsung meant unrecognized. I realized this-and learned a great lesson-when I read the winners submissions.

I continued to submit for different things and was even published (kids section in the local paper-no big digs) once or twice.  Somewhere along the way I gave it up.  Don’t know why-maybe it was the rejections out weighing the acceptances-but I think it had more to do with the increasing inhibitions that accompanied growing up. And comparison. I developed a severe case of ‘others’. Others were better at almost everything so why bother.


Fast forward a few years (ahem) and I am still dealing with comparison.  AND, I am still allowing it to steal my joy!  The definition above has some interesting points to it-especially the bit about a “voluntary…restraint on the direct expression of an instinct”. This implies a willingness to act against what one really wants. Is this what I do? Do I willfully allow comparison and all the other negative thoughts inhabit my thoughts? Do I allow what I think others think of me get in the way? Do I allow that voice that says I am not as good as _______ keep me from taking the next step? Have I spent too many years wanting to fit in-to be as cool as or as good as or as whatever as? Uh, yeah.

10684316_702070369884973_803560635_nI wish I knew who said this-I couldn’t find an attribution but I give props to whoever did.  I still nod yes when I read it.  This is where I want to be-to have that confidence in where I am and quit comparing myself to what everyone else is doing.  I may not be changing the world with what I write but I am writing none-the-less so that alone has value.  I am still getting lots of rejections-more that 30 so far this year for my art work (none for writing cause you can’t get rejected if you haven’t sent anything off!) and I am learning to let it slide right off. That it isn’t personal and that I need to keep going.

I will probably talk about rejection some more on down the road but I will leave it alone for now. For today, just today, let’s focus on forward motion-on taking that next step one at a time and not all at once.  I am looking forward to following a lot of great bloggers out there and I know I will learn a ton and though I am truly sorry I couldn’t get a song written about Mr. Douglass I am grateful that I remembered that the desire to write goes a long way back. AND, maybe its worth going forward with 😉

What holds you back? What is your ‘thief’?  Let’s shake them off together!

Enjoy the AND because that is where the journey is happening-



11 thoughts on “Step Away from the Post…or not.

  1. wynnegraceappears says:

    Um, yep. Love every word of this. Perfect. Brava, bravo, go girl!!
    I will send you might button, but there is one small problem. It is not set up to link to my series home page. But, since you were gracious and asked, I can send it to you 🙂 Good luck with that. I just “link it” when I use it. Generous people make me smile big.

  2. CityChick says:

    Well now, if you need to take a look at one of those amazing blogs…one that is full of awesome writing and thoughts….one that really speaks volumes….please don;t visit mine 🙂 !
    Now if you want to have a place that reflects “Hey, I don;t have it all together and I just write whatever pops into this little head of mine”…one where you could compare away and still walk away feel GUHREAT…come on by :).
    LOVE you “do it anyways” attitude because your story is your story and no one will write it as good as you…or as well as you??? I forget which is the proper grammar here.’
    “Suerman does good, you do well”>
    I remember…no one can write your story as WELL as you can :).
    Good lick and keep writing!!! ❤
    {Stopping by from 31Dayers FB group!

  3. saraborgs says:

    one of “those” great blogs? I’m staring at it. This post rocks it in all the right ways. Carry on my friend. I love the quotes. Thanks for the reminder to not let comparison steal joy, and keep going and speaking our truth. Onward!

  4. judikruis says:

    The message of the world is to compare and conform….I am thankful that I have seen many of those wonderful, unique, passionate and quirky parts of S.A.M. & I look forward to MORE!

  5. Debby says:

    We share a common reader, and friend, Judi. She sent me a link to your blog as we’re both crazy enough to join the write31days challenge. I’ll be stopping by more. Judi knew I’d like your style 😉

  6. kkinne says:

    Oh-My-Gosh! Frederik Douglass is the Great (great?) grandfather of the family I care for! Please tell me you still have the song.
    You, my friend, are a brilliant woman and talented artist. Your love for your family is unmeasurable. I could go on….
    Allow no one to to hold your self-esteem bar. Life is so much better when you can hold on to the attitude: I like it and that’s all that matters:)

    • Susan Mulder says:

      Oh that I had that letter-I think I would frame it just to remind me of the brave and unfettered child I was! And, you my friend are too sweet and I am in danger of growing an ego if I listen to you 😉 a wink and a hug xo

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